So, following this thought line, Angel/Cordy shouldn't be considered canon because they never were intimate, except in that Angel's fantasy!!!

If you continue that logic - since a romantic relationship is apparently only about sex - Buffy and Angel shouldn't count since they (supposedly) only had sex once (you could argue that IWRY doesn't count because of the whole turn back time thing). Which is just silly because Buffy and Angel clearly had/have a significant relationship, as do/did Angel and Spike!

Most of the people who commented here warned me not to get involved, because the shipper stuff normally isn't good, especially if people don't recognize Spike & Angel as canonical.